So as promised, here's my litte rant on dating and relationships. I guess I'm just going to make a few (hopefully insightful) comments about things I've been thinking about lately. The biggest conclusion that I've come to is that "dating" in the traditional sense is really not the way I've ever started a "successful" relationship and that it's probably not the best way to start one in the future. You know, I've always just become really good friends with someone and taken things from there. It's like, how do you know if you'd really like someone until you know them for a while, are around them in different circumstances, and really get to see what it is that makes them tick and makes them special? The normal "dating" way of doing things just really gives a totally rosy picture of things and doesn't usually let you into really seeing who someone is. And makes people get emotionally involved which can keep them in a relationship they just really shouldn't be in. It's not like I need to be dating people to be happy. It's my friends that totally make me happy anyways :) Obviously, when I do find that right person someday, I totally want them to be my best friend, so it makes sense to me at least for things to start as good friends too.
Another thing I've been thinking about a lot lately is what makes a successful relationship. You know, what really makes something that will last. My biggest conclusions on that front is again, that it takes a total trusting friendship and understanding. Both people have to be willing to go above and beyond to be there for each other...to understand and talk through things that come up...or to just be there to hold each other when there are no words suitable for explanation. That's something that's been missing in a lot of my former relationships. And seems so basic to me...it's what love is all about, yet so many people just don't seem to get what it takes to make something last.
So I don't really know the "point" of all this writing, but it feels good to write down what's been going on in my head :) And if any of you know cool people who have a little engineer/scientist and a little artist/writer/musician in them, are smart and inventive, love to smile, are totally random and love doing all sorts of interesting things, have a super-big heart, and most importantly are single, I'd love to meet them and make a new friend. And who knows, maybe someday something will work out, but in the mean time, nothings beats some new awesome friends :) I'm not actively trying anymore to do the "dating" thing. It's just not what I want or what I think leads to something successful. And who knows, maybe one day one of these friends will become someone special. From what I've been told though, my standard of special is pretty high...not that there's anything wrong with that :)
I'll end with a little poem by one of my favorite neo-futurists who is now shooting Ocean's 12 in europe!
Love is...giving hugs.
Love is...pure, uninhibited laughter.
Love just is...and it's wonderful, isn't it?